Your Paradigm Is Running the Show

A paradigm is a mental program that has almost exclusive control over our habitual behavior...


almost all of our behavior is habitual.

Take a moment to think about how much of your day is a habitual routine. What time do you wake up? Which leg goes in your pants first? What pocket is your phone in? You probably have people that you know will make you happy when you see them and others that you know will annoy you when you see them. In fact, you don’t even have to see them, all you have to do is think of someone from either group and you’ll feel either happy or annoyed just from past experiences.

By the time we are 30, most of our thoughts are automatic. It’s like situation-and-response flash cards. You see one side of the card and you immediately know the memorized response from the other side.

Object A prompts actions A. When you brush your teeth, you might always pick up your toothbrush with right hand and toothpaste with left hand. What actions/emotions do the smell of fresh homemade cookies right out of the oven set off? New car smell? Being greeted by a happy dog at home? Coming home to dirty dishes and full trash can? You know how you would respond to all of these.

After about 30 years of accumulated experiences, you pretty much have all the flashcard created so when you perceive anything with your 5 physical senses, you have a pre-programmed response ready with very little mental effort required. This can be a good thing. It lets you drive your car without thinking about all the little micro-actions for each hand and foot and process all the road information easily. It’s the difference between how easily you tie your shoe and how a toddler ties their shoe with so much concentration and effort because they don’t have the experience with the task that you do.

But we need to be aware of how much habit is controlling not only our physical actions, but also our emotions. Some people love talking to large groups of people, others avoid it at all costs. Some people love to jump out of planes and others avoid even driving across bridges. Some people with very little education create billion-dollar empires while tons of people with years of expensive education struggle to pay their bills every month. Different people’s emotions about public speaking, heights and earning money cause very different behavior and results in each situation.

This is where we really see different paradigms show up. Confronted with the exact same situations and opportunities, one person succeeds and another fails. It has nothing to do with education or money or physical abilities. It has entirely to do with how a person sees themself in their own mind.

Your paradigm is the collection of all your habits and beliefs. The paradigm is the program that converts your observations of the outside world into actions. You can easily see that it’s your actions that determine your results, but pulling the strings behind the scenes of your actions is your paradigm.

So how do you use this knowledge for our benefit? You forget entirely about trying to change our behaviors and habits and go instead right to your paradigm. Identify the beliefs you have about yourself that are holding you back.

Do you wish you were in better shape but you’ve always been a little heavy or a little slower on the run? Let’s rewrite that line of code in your paradigm program so that you identify yourself as fit and athletic. When you change your perception of yourself, your actions will automatically and naturally change as will the results that follow.

Have you always struggled with money, just making enough to get by no matter how hard you work? Let’s rewrite that line of code in your paradigm program so that your hard work is always focused and accumulates to wealth and success.

If I can leave you with one thing, remember this: Your results are a reflection of your perception of yourself. If you want to change your results, start with identifying which habits are causing the results you don’t like. Then identify what belief you hold about yourself that is behind that habit. Change that belief and watch it ripple into improved results. If you need help changing the beliefs you hold that make up your paradigm, get in touch with me, I can help.

-Molly Brown

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